Falling in love for 4 minutes? PART 1

March 28, 2018 in article, featured

This month, I am so occupied with the thought that a person can actually fall in-love for a maximum 4 minutes.

How can I explain it to you guys? You probably telling right now these things are non-sense. But let us put it this way.

This is my physical being who runs my thought through my keyboard so I could deliberate my though articulately. But this physical being controls all the terminologies I am about to let off. My non-physical being is forming thoughts on my physical body to present knowledge that I can share to everybody.

This non-physical body is maneuvering my existence in this world that creates energy and influences my daily life.

When it comes to love, this is the most precious thing a human can ever experience. It is beyond our physical being but influence our existence. It gives joys, abundance, intimacy, and meaning on our existence. This is why human are fortunate and precious because we have the ability to experience all these.

When we fall in-love to someone; it is actually our non-physical body that experience the energy instantly. Ops! Energy? Yea- the energy that comes from our inner self, where we experience the feelings of joys, abundance and intimacy that I already stated.

But love is not just a love with so many sweet and passionate vocabularies. There are actually different 7 kinds of Love, the reason why we are actually confused on how to handle our feelings to someone.


  1. Eros: Love of the body      “Eros was the Greek God of love and sexual desire. He was shooting golden arrows into the hearts of both mortals and immortals without warning. The Greeks feared that kind of love the most because it was dangerous and could get them into the most trouble. Eros is defined as divine beauty or lust. Eros is mainly based on sexual attraction and it is where the term “erotica” came from.”

In addition to this, on my own opinion; Eros is a strong infatuation for someone that creates a desire to hold and kiss the person. For me it is not merely sexual fascination but physically attracted that creates a desire for someone.

Falling in-love for 10 seconds

“The first time I saw him, it creates a tremble on my heart. He stared at me that creates the unexplained energy on my inner being. The feeling was mutual; we looked at each others eyes and our inner self communicated automatically; then we believed that it was actually Love at first sight


  1. Philia: Love of the mind

Also know as brotherly love, Philia represents the sincere and platonic love. The kind of love you have for your brother or a really good friend. It was more valuable and more cherished than Eros. Philia exists when people share the same values and dispositions with someone and the feelings are reciprocated.

Falling in-love for 70 seconds

“I had realised at the very beginning that I love him. We can talk for hours, making fun at each other; calling people with codes so no one can understand our conversation. He knows everything I’m doing in my life right now. He cares for me; making sure I sleep ok every night; telling me what to do if the guy wants to take me out. He guided me on my everyday life. He is checking if I sleep well. He told me that she loves me and he cares for me. He is my best friend – my mentor! No more, no less”


  1. Ludus: Playful love

Ludus is the flirtatious and teasing kind of love, the love mostly accompanied by dancing or laughter. It’s the child-like and fun kind of love. If you think about it; this generation loves Ludus more than anything else.

“I am afraid to get into date because there are stages that I need to follow. It is like testing a new car before buying it. For me it’s a waste of intimacy, I don’t wanna invest a strong feeling for fun.”


  1. Pragma: Longstanding love

The everlasting love between a married couple which develops over a long period of time. Pragma was the highest form of love; the true commitment that comes from understanding, compromise and tolerance. It is pragmatic this is why it is referred to as “standing in love” rather than “falling in love” because it grows over time and requires profound understanding between lovers who have been together for many years.

Falling in-love for 0 seconds

“Today, I met a couple. The woman is so sick and the husband stand by her and taking care of her. I can help myself but to tell the guy “You are amazing, your wife is so lucky to have your unconditional love. Then he told me, Love is not like we expect or demand something from someone. We can still love someone even he or she is sick; on this way I can show to her that I love her and my love will last eternally as I have promised her… and that promise i made the moment i saw her”

  1. Agape: Love of the soul

It is the selfless kind of love, the love for humanity. It is the closest to unconditional love. The love you give without expecting anything in return reflected in all charitable acts. It is the compassionate love that makes us sympathize with, help and connect to people we don’t know. The world needs more Agape.

Falling in-love for 10 seconds

“She was dying, telling me; I had a good life on earth Suzette, it’s about time to say goodbye to earth. I just wished I have my children with me right now, looking after my last breath on earth; I held her hand and felt the love I have for human. I dedicate myself to this profession because I give something that a person like her cannot have on that moment. Then she lost her breath; tears came on my eyes and I said “When you get to heaven please say my name, so I can feel your love for me on this existence.”


  1. Philautia: Love of the self

The ancient Greeks divided Philautia into two kinds: There is one that is pure selfish and seeks pleasure, fame, and wealth often leading to narcissism and there is another healthy kind of love we give ourselves. Philautia is essential for any relationship, we can only love others if we truly love ourselves and we can only care for others if we truly care for ourselves.

Falling in-love for 4 minuttes

“I was helpless, no where to go. I couldn’t get back to Siniloan because It was so dangerous. I was so afraid, then he came with a helping hand”


  1. Storge: Love of the child

This is the love parents naturally feel for their children. It’s based on natural feelings and effortless love. Storge is the love that knows forgiveness, acceptance and sacrifice. It is the one that makes you feel secure, comfortable and safe.

Falling in-love for 0 second

“When I saw my children for the first time; I said to myself, “Oh I love you.. and I will always love you for the rest of my life”. I held them, kissed them, and embraced them.”

But life is not always like that. They grown up, became stubborn, disobeying what I asked them to do; talked to me as if I was not a mother; hurt me; frustrated me; you can name all the worse thing human can imagine.. (A bit exaggerated now)

The first time I held my children, I never expect anything from them. I just felt that they are my children and I was going to raise them as a good human being. And the reality came.. They failed.. They failed to meet each my expectations. I wanted my children to be come doctors; nurse.. As all filippino mom’s expecting for their children.. but “Mom, I don’t have any plan in my life”

I am a kind of “Obsessive Compulsive” but my children don’t know how to wash their dishes. They can’t even wash their own clothes. I love fashion and vanity is very important for me, but my girls love to get easy go lucky clothes, which is against on my fashion style.

I wanted so many things and expected to be something. I wanted them to behave the way I do but reality is like this. I cannot control everything but let the situation flow then accept it and… love them as they are, because I love them unconditionally.

I get angry for 5 minutes but after that; I am sure to myself that I love them and I will have and keep them for the rest of my life. I am sure to myself that they are the most important and my reason of my existence”







Suzette Lyn

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